tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post3184872545643393591..comments2023-12-14T06:06:39.934-05:00Comments on Agnostic Adoption: BirthdayKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01649845469609235886noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post-72017303188484562992013-01-18T14:11:11.543-05:002013-01-18T14:11:11.543-05:00We are very fortunate to feel as certain as we can...We are very fortunate to feel as certain as we can about K's birthdate. But, of course, that's due to her particular circumstances and super-young age at referral. It sounds like you guys have done some good thinking and evaluating about ages, and that you had a great celebration for A! (19 kids plus parents?! Yikes!)Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13533605951512372935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post-60044732702293245432013-01-17T21:15:03.044-05:002013-01-17T21:15:03.044-05:00I think we'll do a party in the summer as well...I think we'll do a party in the summer as well, on the legal date. To keep our options open.<br />Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01649845469609235886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post-53137599080357066612013-01-17T21:06:22.675-05:002013-01-17T21:06:22.675-05:00Thank you for the advice. I agree it doesn't m...Thank you for the advice. I agree it doesn't make sense to change the date until we are more certain about what the right date is. Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01649845469609235886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post-18219873646648872602013-01-17T20:10:20.002-05:002013-01-17T20:10:20.002-05:00Re: birthday parties - my daughter LOVES her birth...Re: birthday parties - my daughter LOVES her birthday. When she was smaller a whole year was a long time to wait, so we celebrated her 1/2 birthday with cake and singing etc. It was really fun. Sounds like you could do half birthdays as well.. or some kind of other celebration because we all know there are never to many reasons to have cake. :-).AnnaJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03383199662193653915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post-20357224359891778282013-01-17T15:14:12.888-05:002013-01-17T15:14:12.888-05:00Even if you wanted to do it legally, I would NEVER...Even if you wanted to do it legally, I would NEVER do it the first year home. I upped the oldest two years, and clearly that was not enough, but I don't know how many people go in and redo things a second time. Teachers, psychologist, and others all said he is NOT that young and I think the paper age was four years off. I think actually immigration may be more accurate than I believed. Of course they see a lot of kids. I am amazed Your children's paper dates were so accurate. Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09159433424849579402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post-47033699726377196052013-01-17T10:29:38.846-05:002013-01-17T10:29:38.846-05:00I explained the situation to the people at our YMC...I explained the situation to the people at our YMCA and they were very willing to go in and change the birthdates on their computer. This was just for classes though, not for an extended program. We have been very upfront with the boys about their legal vs likely-correct birthdays, but even with that, they've latched on to the day they are having a birthday party as the only day that matters. I assume their understanding will evolve as they mature, and they can have some role in deciding what date to use.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01649845469609235886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post-68959139987183007762013-01-17T10:25:57.961-05:002013-01-17T10:25:57.961-05:00We might try to legally change their birthdays at ...We might try to legally change their birthdays at some point. But with their current pediatrician and dentist not willing to definitively say their ages are wrong, it would be somewhat of a challenge.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01649845469609235886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post-38471305725971272282013-01-17T09:02:59.699-05:002013-01-17T09:02:59.699-05:00Ahhh yes, the struggle with birthdays. Our son ce...Ahhh yes, the struggle with birthdays. Our son celebrated his 6th birthday in October, though I know he is older. The hardest part I have with it all is figuring out how much to tell the kids about that issue, how much to explain. It seems like one more unknown to have to add to their little life. Over the summer the kids had to be six to all go to this YMCA program together (all 3 older kids were super excited and MB was clearly mature enough). On paper MB was only 5 at the time and so I wrote 6 when I signed him in. And then my two older kids immediately called me out in front of the director for putting the wrong age. Ugggg. I did a mumbling side step about how he is probably really 6 and he is clearly old enough for the program. Still not sure I handled it correctly or not.Captain Murdock {Godwilladd.com}https://www.blogger.com/profile/10151917245728402556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603400846504081911.post-49100985944494091372013-01-16T21:24:00.203-05:002013-01-16T21:24:00.203-05:00Better to celebrate birthdays during the school ye...Better to celebrate birthdays during the school year, anyway. My son has a July birthday and hates it because he doesn't get to celebrate at school and some of his friends always miss the party because they are on vacation with their families. (I realize this is not the most important factor in your decision, but a practical reality.) And, yes, having met your kids, I would say there are AT LEAST two years between them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com